Why You Are Not Successful

endless stairsOne day I was analyzing why I had not yet achieved success in my struggling business. I wondered why it was taking so long for the fame and fortune to come rolling in. I had a picture of where I wanted to be in my life, and I was slowly going around in circles, endlessly learning about internet marketing, book publishing, book marketing and product development.

My goal was to work from home with a full time income, but have flexible hours. I was a student of everything and anything about selling online and how to get my message out to greater numbers of people using this amazing vehicle called the internet. But I wasn’t seeing any real results. I would sporadically get a new customer, after many hours of connecting with people on forums or social networking sites. I would get some website sales because of the good SEO(search engine optimization) techniques I used to help people find me through a Google search.

So when I considered why I wasn’t reaching more people, I looked at my beliefs around success, money and hard work. I found immediately that I had a belief about having to work hard to achieve. When I realized that was a firm belief (it was evidenced throughout my life) I DECIDED I didn’t want that to be true for me any more. I created a new affirmation and began to work on it:
“Money comes easily.”
More income began to come in, but I still wasn’t receiving the level of success I had expected.

Then I finally realized something: no matter how many times I said the affirmation, it was stuck inside another belief that would make it impossible for me to receive what I wanted.

It was revealed so obviously once I stepped outside the belief and named it. I was stuck inside a continuous belief loop that said

“I am not successful yet.”

Every thought I had about how to ‘get’ successful reinforced the belief of lacking success now.

out of reach successSo do you see why you are not successful? If you actually have the question “how can I get more…?” you are holding yourself in a loop that will not allow you to be anything else. If you are chasing success, chasing money, chasing achievement then you are reinforcing that you are not there yet. It is a Lack Loop, and the only way out is your conviction that you are done with it.

In the moment I fully accepted my success, I became free; I looked at the small successes I had already achieved to persist and get where I was at that point. I said, out loud:

“I am already successful.”

I owned my success, without arrogance, justifications or expectations. I just claimed it. From then on, I became more patient as I took appropriate step-by-step actions toward each milestone in my business.

I also stopped thinking of myself as a student and became an ongoing learner while recognizing that I had come far. I was an author, and needed to stop judging myself for not knowing everything I had to do in the future – an impossible place.¬† It’s important to ‘graduate’ from the student mentality and into the professional mentality so that you can accept your new Success Identity as Now, and “be” it before you “have” it. Then you’ll get clarity and confidence about what actions are appropriate next. Resistance to success is released.

Sometimes our success is even held back because it looks too complicated to arrive, so I held the vision of myself as a successful businesswoman in meetings, doing taxes and accounts with ease and clarity.

Now, I have more enjoyment of each step in the continuing expansion of my business. I work from home, with flexible hours. I receive the money and the ways to unfold the next part of my business goals. And this business is my life’s work – sharing my message of freedom with conscious successful people – so I am already successful because I get to do this each day with more and more people. My success is a done deal. And that provides me with the mental tools for more, while accepting and enjoying the journey.

Abundant possibilities,




Your Reactions are Stuck Feelings

Have you ever felt trapped and caught up in a reaction, not able to pull out of it? Our reactions are triggered by feelings, which are started by a certain type of thought. Blame, anger, resentment, fear, all these come from your set beliefs.

If you continually find the same feelings being acted out, look for a common thread, or theme to them. I was noticing that accidental things were happening and I was feeling victimized by Life: I was playfully chasing my cat around the house, and I knocked over and broke a beautiful Buddha statue that was a gift from my son; we renovated our townhouse with gorgeous new flooring tiles and they had used two different batches and it showed; then when we moved in, I dropped a glass coaster and it bounced and rolled across the new tiles, scratching them permanently – on the first day!

I was caught up in my reactions, and could see that I felt like a victim. So as I processed this, I thought it was my old poor-me, victim beliefs coming up. But when I looked beyond at the similarity of the circumstances, it was a feeling of permanent¬†disappointments. I knew this might be a trigger from an early life theme, because I was told the story of how one weekend my sister and I were waiting on the front porch with our suitcases packed, dressed in our Sunday-best, ready for a weekend visit with our father. When my mother finally called him, he was drunk and unable to take us for the weekend. I cannot say that I remember that event(I was less than 4 years old), but it would be a good guess that I either had judgements about myself or him, and I know I felt my mother’s resolve to protect us from disappointments when I heard the story. She threatened that he would never see us again if he ever repeated it. After that he always showed up sober and on time for our visits.

So I used that awareness to do SpeedShifting(TM) on disappointment. I looked for many places in my life where I felt disappointment and reacted (badly) by blaming, justifying, demanding and insisting my family make sure I didn’t have to go through that again. In my mind’s eye, I began running SpeedShifting(TM) on those inappropriate negative reactions. Finally, when it was fully expressed, I completed the SpeedShifting(TM) process and immediately felt the space available.

What I find now, is the feelings are no longer there, and circumstances that I may have been disappointed about became less frequent – even not perceived as disappointment any more. The Buddha statue has been mended back to near perfection, and I have so much more enjoyment of my new home renovations now that I could let go of my obsessive-compulsive need for every tile to match. LOL

I have more freedom in a huge area now, and new possibilities fill that beautiful space – more peacefulness, more fun, more success, more appreciation. This is the gift that SpeedShifting(TM) is to me.

Abundant possibilities,